The past year and a half has been quite hectic for me. It was probably the busiest time of my life, with work and managing some of my side hustles. It got to a point where I was not eating dinner with my son or even spending enough time with him. I mean a full day would pass without me having a thing to eat – bad, right?

I was always cooped up in my bedroom just working away. Mpilo eventually picked up on this, and being the sweetheart that he is, he started making me breakfast – a quick bowl of cereal or yoghurt. He then moved to lunch, making me noodles, eggs, and bread, or Airfryed chips.

While the food would occasionally be extra salty, I just thought it was the sweetest thing my boy had ever done for me. Seeing him make me so happy also gave him a sense of pride, I could just see it in his face. I think that’s when I discovered his love language, he showed me how much he loved me through the food he made and making sure that I had something to eat.

Since then, Mpilo loves treating me to some home-cooked goodness. You might have seen on Instagram that he’s even offered to cook supper with me. This has become our thing now, our love language – I call it because it gives joy to both of us, and a way for us to bond a little more. We get to select the menu and create the food together, something that we were not used to doing given my busy schedule as a single mom and career woman. A bonus here is that we also use this time to catch up on what is happening in his life – (I know right, he has a schedule of his own😊), while we make an amazing dish that we will both enjoy.

The first thing he asked to do was stir the pot (with me observing for safety), even though he would overdo it and end up spilling. It really tested my patience, but when I realised how fulfilled he was, I would just smile. He also loved dishing up with me – more like take out the crockery and cutlery and set the table. He just couldn’t wait to taste what he had created.

While this newfound love for mother-and-son cooking has helped me convince him to eat well, it has really helped us spend more quality time together, it has also helped us get to know each other better because the more time we spend together cooking, the more we engage and have fun.

As caregivers, it is very easy for us to get caught up in our busy lives, but a word of advice from one parent to another, let’s find ways to continue renewing and showing the love to our kids. Cooking together is one of the few ways to get this done – let that dinner plate you make be not just a plate made with love, but one that is a love language for both you and your child.

Stay tuned to my social platforms to see me and Mpilo in action, and visit for tips and healthy meals that you can try with your child.


  1. This article just hit home for me, with being a single mom else well there was a time when I was doing the same thing spending all my days in my room working or studying. For me it was different cause my oldest daughter is a teenager and can already cook so she took over my duties of cooking dinner and even packing lunch for school for her sister. Reality kicked in for me when I overheard them talking to each other about how I am always in my room and never spend time with them anymore, it broke my heart but from that day I made sure that I take time off work and started spending more time with them, they even got me doing Tik Tok vid9eitg them 🤣.

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